The loss of a loved one, young or old, is still a great loss. We all deal with loss in our own individual ways. Some cry, some laugh, and some may even get angry, but we all must find a way to deal and a way to help us heal.
New posts, material and motivation have been delayed on Fusion this week, due to a great loss in my family. Whether young or old, expected or not, I am still finding it hard to deal with the pain that comes with missing such a great influence in my life. I have spent several days with family members crying, laughing and reminiscing. We are all coping with the loss individually, but together as a family as well.
I have come to realize now, as the dust is starting to settle, that this great loss has not only brought our family closer together, but has awakened my spirit. My Grandfather of 81 years old lived a long and prosperous life. He was kind, caring and loved by many. He has left a legacy behind that is our family and we will strive to make him proud.
I believe a loss of a loved one brings about a lot of pain, but can also be a great gain. There is an opportunity to awaken the spirit within you to be a better person, to thrive. We are prompted with loss to express our gratitude for the privilege of knowing such a great human being, acknowledging many traits he may have left behind in us. Celebrating their life also gives us the chance to spend time with many loved ones and share our laughs, pains and promises. I am truly thankful for my Grandfather and find his life and his death a true blessing to our family.
If you are experiencing loss, take a moment from the grief and the pain to acknowledge the beauty. Yes, we must grieve, as it is a necessary process in life, but we must also be thankful for the gift we were given with their life.
I will miss my Grandaddy more than words will ever express, but I know in my heart that it was his time and that we will meet again. His legend will live on in our family, and we will continue to grow in strength and spirit for knowing such an awesome man. Rest in Peace Grandaddy and may your spirit live strong within me.
Amazing Grace - Jeff Beck
To Big Daddy From Strawface
July 29, 1929 - April 21, 2011
I remember your smile, and the look on your handsome face;
The strength in your hug, and the warmth from your embrace;
Your wise cracks so keen, and your legs so lean;
A head full of hair, so full and white, it seemed to sparkle even more in the light;
The sound of your loud voice, so big and strong;
Your nighttime prayers so very, very long;
A caring and kind heart you did have, which has made our loss so very sad;
You loved your family with all your heart, and that love can never be torn apart;
That twinkle in your eye was like a star in the sky,
and now you will share it with the by and by;
You always gave all you could give, and worked to teach us a respectful way to live;
We are truly grateful for your life, and so is your lovely wife;
With respect and love, you were always true, and without you, she will always be a little blue, but we will love and cherish her through and through;
This is not goodbye, as I believe we will meet again;
You're walking with God now and that will never end;
Your life and your death will make me a better person as I try to live with dignity and grace - and I can't wait to once again, see that smile on your face.
I love you Grandaddy!
“Everyday, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.” – Dalai Lama
I had the opportunity to drive across one of our beautiful bridges last week and couldn't help but notice the sun sparkling on the glassy, still waters. The Gulf was as calm as the sky was blue. This is a beauty we often take for granted in our everyday lives, but if we stop for moment and notice our surroundings, we become more aware of just how blessed we truly are and how beautiful the world can be. As I gazed out onto the water, I noticed a ripple in the perfectly smooth water. As I looked closer to notice the imperfection in the water which had just appeared to be a sheet of glass, I saw two dolphins playing and chasing one another- another beautiful sight. Our lives are going to ripple from time to time, for this is life, but if we focus more on the good, our attitudes change and our minds start to calm. We should all awake daily with gratitude, expressing our thanks for all the good we have in our life. It's simple, easy to do, will change our outlook and our livelihood. Start your day by giving thanks and watch yourself grow into a more positive, happier person. Achieve things you never thought possible. Tap into your true purpose in life and spread the joy, infecting others with your positive outlook, and start to notice the change in how you feel.
Clear your mind of the things that challenge, worry and annoy you. Shift your focus to the blessings in your life and express thanks. Our blessings can be simple things like electricity, food on the table, water, or a roof over our head, or more complex like children, a loving spouse, family and friends. What about you personally? Do you have a working, able body? Then you are blessed. Exercise that able body and be thankful for your health each day. Yes, some of us may have hiccups or ripples with our health and fitness, but if you're able, you must at least give it your all. View the 7 Steps to Effective Gratitude
Feed that thought of gratefulness and watch your spirits rise. Notice the beauty around you everyday and lend a helping hand when you can. If you're quick to judge someone else, stop for a moment and realize you don't know their situation and have no business judging anyone but yourself. A change in your attitude with a more positive outlook will change the way you view other people, giving them the fair chance we all deserve.
Start by taking a minute of your morning each day to think of at least 5 things you are thankful for that day. This could be shelter, people who have done something nice for you, your job, a hot morning shower, or just the fact that you're able to get out of bed and start another blessed day. Try to fit in an exercise routine into your schedule. You will boost your mood, energy and sense of gratefulness. Exercise is proven to be good for your mood.
As you go through your day, you are bound to hit a ripple or two. For each ripple, choose a blessing, again shifting your focus to something good in your life and allow it to outweigh the bad. We have many things to be thankful for if we just take a moment to reflect. If you tend to anger easily, slow down, take a deep breath and be thankful for something else. You will notice your attitude start to change and your mind start to calm.
View a challenge as an opportunity. Be grateful for the challenge and hit it head on, with passion and confidence. We often are quick to complain about our challenges which just waste time and energy. By taking the challenge, we are one step closer to fulfilling our purpose with a positive attitude and continue to move forward.
We all experience loss and heartache and this is one of the hardest things to overcome in this thing we call life. Count the many blessings you've experienced because of the person you've lost and be thankful for the role they played in your life. If it's heartache you've experienced, your challenge is to overcome the pain with time and maintain a positive outlook. You will realize over time that the experience has only helped you to grow stronger and closer to your true purpose in life. This is a great time to pay closer attention to the other important people in your life and express your love and appreciation for them as they are here for you now.
Last, but certainly not least, concentrate on the things you DO have and not what you don't. You do have control over your thoughts and how to direct them. A positive attitude of gratitude brings on a certain kind of energy that will quickly change the way you look at your life and the world around you. When you focus on gratitude, you shift your energy mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually, so infuse the mind, body and spirit and experience the Power of Gratitude.